Winter Poly Wonderland 2015 Program (2016 coming soon!!!)

Qigong – daily, before breakfast

Qigong is moving meditation from China. For thousands of years people have captured the essence of these simple movements to maintain balance and to heal themselves mentally and physically. Qigong accelerates healing and has a positive clinically recognized effect on almost all physical symptoms. Qigong helps heal the physical body and release stress of the mind.  By moving your body, releasing trigger points, and stimulating your circulatory system, you literally become your own massage therapist, while you simultaneously release negative emotions and memories that you no longer need and allow yourself to be much more present in your "now" allowing you to be your own psychiatrist at the same time!  Come learn how to build the foundation of being your own health advocate and enjoy emotional freedom and connection to all that is.
Peter’s Bio

Morning Circle - daily

Every morning at 9:00 AM we’ll gather for appreciations, announcements, and connection.  Also, each person will have a brief opportunity (but not a requirement) to check in and share “where they are at.”

Poly Skill Share - daily

New to polyamory?  Got questions?  “Old hand” at polyamory?  Got answers?  Join us for this daily skillshare on the promises and perils of diving into ethical, loving non-monogamy! Poly Skill Share will explore many techniques for enhancing our abilities to have rich, satisfying, and durable relationships. Topics will include communication skills, emotional intelligence, love languages, and much more.

Community Sharing Circle - daily

Forum (  was created at ZEGG, an intentional community in Germany, and its sister communities as a way of promoting transparency and mutual understanding among community members.  ZEGG members found that decision-making meetings often got derailed because of emotional conflicts and undercurrents that were not known to or understood by all.  In Forum, each individual’s experience could be seen and understood, leading to greater empathy and creativity in the community.  Now, many residential and non-residential intentional communities have adopted Forum as a way to maintain ongoing connection, intimacy and understanding.

The goal of Forum is to reveal what is alive but not known to all.  The community sits in a circle, forming a stage for one person at a time to stand and show what is true for them.  Facilitators may assist the person (or “presenter”) to reveal themselves more deeply.  Afterward, community members may offer reflections, or “mirrors,” on what they saw.

One of the gifts of ZEGG Forum is that it allows us a space to appreciate every perspective without taking it on as “truth.” Every voice has its own poignancy, its own wisdom, its own truth, that does not negate the wisdom and truth of other perspectives. Allowing all voices to surface and be known can lead to a profound and unexpected integration within a community. We tend to think that events leading to painful experiences and conflicts are bad, because they feel bad in the moment. However, when we open ourselves and compassionately witness what is happening for everyone, these experiences can be gateways to greater closeness, understanding, and love. When conflict emerges, whether or not we are in a formal Forum space, we can choose to listen in this way.  This deep listening sustains and nurtures community life and relationships.

Sensual Dome - Daily

The Sensual Dome is a place for structured and unstructured education and exploration of sensual and sexual issues.  This space is a resource for those who wish to make use of it; none of the core workshops will take place in the Sensual Dome.  There will be an orientation for people interested in using the Sensual Dome on Saturday evening.

Orientation - Daily

The orientation is a brief but effective introduction to the "culture of consent" that underlies most successful poly relationships and helps create the sense of safety and freedom that characterizes all of our events. Required for all campers on the day they arrive; open to all attendees each day.

Transparency Tools - Friday, January 16

How many relationships and projects unravel because of communication failures? This introduction to transparency tools is designed to help you and others see yourself more clearly and express yourself more completely.

A sage once said “If you can’t talk about it, you can’t heal.” Though these tools are not principally designed for their therapeutic value, it is often true that using them aids in healing. What they are designed for is enabling self revelation in a community environment. This nearly inevitably builds both intimacy and trust.

These tools have been developed in the intentional communities movement to help people who live and work together understand each other better and more fully see each others’ emotional make up. They require no particular religious or spiritual training or belief.

This interactive workshop will explain and demonstrate several of these techniques in large and small groups. Participants are always at choice about their involvement and how much of themselves they wish to share.
Paxus’s Bio  Sarah's Bio

Poly Styles – Saturday, January 17

Description coming soon!
Michael’s Bio  Sarah’s Bio

Spreading the NRE: Using New Relationship Energy to Fan the Flames of Existing Love - Saturday, January 17

You've maybe heard about it, that blissful state of emotion known to most polyamorists as NRE - New Relationship Energy. The mainstream citizenry refers to it as falling in love.  NRE is how polyamorous people refer to that heady state of mind.  To some it's difficult to imagine how to share it joyfully with others that we love, but I assure you that it can be and is being done.  I'll tell you my story, and you tell me yours (if you choose). 
Anita’s Bio

Polyamory without Drama – Saturday, January 17

Why do relationships that begin with such high hopes often lead to ongoing stress and disappointment? Why do we fall in love with this person, but not with that one? How can we deal with the storms of emotion that seem to follow connections of great joy? What does it take to create a relationship that is supportive and appreciative for both partners? The insights and techniques that are shared in this workshop are drawn from many sources, including the facilitators' polyamorous paths, Eastern spirituality, and hard science. They can be applied to all our relationships and interactions with others, sexual or non-sexual, polyamorous or monogamous, casual or intimate. Join us as we discover how we can come to a place of power and choice in how our lives and relationships unfold.
Michael's Bio

Cuddle Party – Saturday, January 17

Cuddle Party is a structured non-sexual event where participants engage in communication exercises, explore touch in a non-sexual space, experience personal exploration and intimacy, and have fun with like minded friends from the community. In a relaxed environment that upholds personal boundaries and maintains a safe atmosphere at all times, people are encouraged to engage in communication and touch.  Nurturing and consensual loving touch is good for maintaining healthy blood pressure, a strong nervous system and balanced emotional health. One’s ability to connect with and develop greater trust in others is emphasized during the group exchanges at Cuddle Parties. Self-care is a cornerstone of Cuddle Party experience.  Monique has facilitated over 300 cuddle parties and the greatest gift Cuddle Party has given her is that the rules Cuddle Parties can be viewed as rules for living, and they can transform any life.
Monique’s Bio

Sensual Dome Orientation and Opening – Saturday, January 17

The Sensual Temple is a warm and inviting space to explore Connection & Intimacy by engaging all of the senses. This is a space to lounge together after spending the day learning communication and intimacy tools - the perfect place to practice communication and share affection in a relaxed and sex positive atmosphere.  We will give an introduction to the space and we will practice the “Safe Sex Elevator Speech.”

After the Temple Orientation, those who wish will proceed to the Temple for its official opening.  All are invited to explore the Temple Space – the opening activities will be sensual but nonsexual, and the Temple Team will create a clear transition when the space becomes open for sexual connection.

Monique’s Bio  Sarah’s Bio

Poly Relating Skills – Sunday, January 18

Now that we’ve gotten the big picture of what makes poly relationships work well, this morning we’ll focus on concrete skills and practices to implement that understanding.  Knowing your truth, speaking your truth, working skillfully with emotional triggers, holding compassionate space for others, developing curiosity about ourselves and others, letting go of attachment to being “right” – all of these contribute to loving and intimate relationship with self and others.  We’ll engage body, mind, and emotions in this exploratory and experiential learning process.
Sarah’s Bio

Safe Sex in a Poly World – Sunday, January 18

Up-to-date scientifically and medically sound information on how to manage health issues for anyone who has multiple sexual partners--including how we can have *safe* sex, not just "safer" sex. We cover specific techniques, brands, and concepts that allow responsible sex without damaging pleasure or intimacy, and we will practice the "Safe Sex Elevator Speech".
Michael's Bio

Pink Puja – Sunday, January 18

Our sensuality is a manifestation and expression of our vital sexual life-force and creative energy. It can play, move, and be shared and enjoyed in many ways. Join us for sacred exploration of this force in a fun environment! This get-together will include extremely powerful boundary-setting practices, then exercises to help us bond, practice surrender, and play like children.  This non-sexual evening begins with Monique’s now infamous Silent Puja, where you will get to connect with everyone in the room through eyes, hearts, energetic body, without the distraction of words. It is extremely profound and sets the tone for the amazing spaces you can go through out the night, falling in love with each person there, but ultimately walking out having fallen even further in love with YOU! Then Monique will be leading you through paired exercises such as erotic feeding, sensation play on your body (touching for YOUR pleasure), sound bath, fragrance to awaken your core being, the "bossy" massage (learn how empowering it can be to really ask for exactly the touch you would like), AND so much more.
Monique’s Bio

Play Party – Sunday, January 18  (Sensual Dome)

What is Play with a capital "P"?
Play with a capital "P" is whatever it means to you. You are invited to co-create whatever sensual and/or sexual experience feeds your soul. Participation (also with a capital "P") can mean many things and voyeurs are as warmly welcomed as the most actively engaged. It's a sensual space where participants are encouraged to explore themselves and others in ways that are stimulating, nurturing, exciting, safe and FUN!
This is the Play party you want to come to if you've never been to one before, AND this is the Play party you want to come to if you want to experience how to take generating safe play space for you and your loved ones to the next level.
Monique’s Bio

Honest Seduction – Monday, January 19

Seduction has a bad rap.   For most of us, the word is synonymous with manipulation, deception and power-over practices.   We're reclaiming seduction and rehabilitating its tarnished name.   Honest Seduction is cooperatively creating power and sparking healthy intimacy.  It is part seduction technique, part lifestyle, and part relationship model.   Honest Seduction workshops (HS) focus on three main components: Disclosures, Love Letters, and Radical Romance (RR).

Disclosures are the things we normally hide during the early parts of a romance- other complicated relationships, STIs, past traumas, "dealbreakers", etc.  Honest Seduction alternatively believes that when done well, vulnerability can be sexy and allow us to build more exciting and durable relationships.  Workshops focus on how to share disclosures in an organic and authentic manner and receive them with compassion and respect.

Love Letters are seldom used and powerful tools for nearly any relationship.  The workshop gives some practice in writing love letters for people who you feel you have insufficiently appreciated (not necessarily romantic interests) as well as people who you are attracted to and want to explore possibilities with.  The workshop (and connected webpages) also debunks common myths and shares the keys to writing powerful love letters.   We also discuss the ever changing world of digital media -- text messages, blog entries, Facebook wall posts, emails, video chat and the ways they can be used as non-traditional delivery methods for love letters.

Radical Romanceis what might happen after a successful honest seduction.  In it partners agree to help each other become who they want to be.  Radical Romance is the daring exploration of your personal and shared identity and a tool for personal growth.  During workshops we explore tools and techniques, starting with the key tenet of Radical Romance: "This is where I am, this is where I want to be, I want you to help me get there."

This interactive workshop uses the "truth is in the room" philosophy. Instead of presuming the presenters know everything and will impart their vast knowledge, our efforts are directed towards getting rich conversation from participants and showing that everyone has something significant to add to the discussion.

Should You Commit to a Polyamorous/Monogamous Relationship? – Monday, January 19

Probably the greatest challenge in finding what works to resolve conflict in polyamorous relationships is working out the challenge that arises when one partner is polyamorous and the other is monogamous.  How do people manage?  Is it even possible to find mutual happiness under such circumstances?  This class will explore the ways in which poly/mono relationships wither for some and thrive for others.
Anita’s Bio

The Interview Game – Monday, January 19

This dynamic game gives an opportunity to ask questions and find out more about everyone here!
Sarah’s Bio

Dance Party – Monday, January 19

Starting with some gentle guidance, Peter will bring us into our bodies and help us move to the music with ecstatic energy in community.
Peter’s Bio

Erotic Energy Play – Monday, January 19 (Sensual Dome)

Join Monique Darling for a fun night of playing in the energetic field.  Would you like to expand the range of your ENERGETIC sexual experience?  Turn YOUR life into an orgasmic playground that doesn’t have to look anything like “sex”!

Learn to get in touch with your own energetic field, manipulate it, and turn it into a powerful source of connection and bliss. Discover how and where to touch another to tune into, access, tease and play with their erotic energy, the energy of two people, or the energy of a entire group! Tap into the energy of all 7 major chakras by yourself, with a partner, or in a group.  Discover the differences in “taste” between energetic orgasms from chakra to chakra. Play with gender fluidity from the place that we are all "just energy" and we have both an energetic yoni and lingam and get to play with both.

Let me show you our tools, tips and tricks for unlocking your stuck sexual energy
AND of course be shown and get to play with my Infamous creation... the "Heart Fuck!"

This workshop is Rated-PG13/R, will feature frank (and humorous!) language, fully-clothed demonstrations, and participation is not required.
Monique’s Bio

Exploring Gender and Diversity – Tuesday, January 20

One of the main causes of relationship difficulties is the assumption that other people function pretty much the way we do. This could hardly be farther from the truth--there are hundreds of ways that people are "wired", and when we learn about the many ways there are to be human, we can be much more effective in relating to others.

From the moment of birth ("it's a girl!"), children are identified by gender. This shapes almost every aspect of their lives and relationships. But as we learn more about gender, its significance gets murky, especially once we learn about GLBTPQ??? . What is it that defines our gender? Which of these characteristics are essential, and which are created by the culture we live in? What effect has growing up in a strongly gendered society had on ourselves and our children? Are there alternatives?  There will be a presentation on what has been learned from many sources about gender, including the latest discoveries in neuroscience, followed by a group discussion.
Michael’s Bio

Completion Circle – Tuesday, January 20

As our time together comes to a close, we will connect, reflect, say goodbye, and prepare to re-enter the mainstream world.  What gifts will we bring with us from Winter Poly Wonderland?  What will we create in our lives and communities?

Open Sessions – Tuesday, January 20

Join in as the group uses Open Space Technology to organize concurrent events inspired by your own passions and interests. Open Sessions are an opportunity for campers to convene dialogue groups on topics they've been wanting to explore, or create group massages, or do a music jam together, or much more. Participants are free to move from session to session, honoring their instincts and natural enthusiasm.